Some days I wish there was just a button to push that would do the work for me...like a 'download here' and all of a sudden you'd have your next aha! moment that expands your awareness and progresses your self-development.
We can't be highly operational all the time; whether it's lack of energy, illness, or just needing a day OFF. If I'm having a day where I'm low energy and frankly, feeling spiritually lazy, it doesn't mean I can't raise my vibe and continue moving forward in my self-development. These days help us balance.
They allow us to accept.
They allow us to practice self-love.
They allow us to reflect.
So I go to my toolbox and retrieve some tools; guided meditations & self-care practices.
Here's what I do;
-I let myself know it's okay to feel how I feel
-I grab a pair of headphones and let someone else guide my meditation (try Insight Timer or Youtube; I like Michael Sealey)
-I practice my self-care; with the result that I feel relaxed by the end (some examples; yoga, candlelit bath, lay in the sun, look at old birthday cards or photos, listen to some hypnotic music or singing bowls)
-I communicate with anyone in my energetic field what my expectations are for myself that day
-I keep my journal close; sometimes free writing or expression through words helps to identify how I'm feeling
-I ask my self "do I have the energy for this today"; not listening to my mind trying to convince myself if I want to do or not do something
When self-abusive thoughts come up on my lower energy days, like "you should really do something today" "why do you feel this way, what's even wrong with you" "if you don't do (this) today then it says a lot about you" "you're weak/fat/stupid/lazy".
I begin having a conversation with myself that becomes an inner dialogue. I prompt my 'not self' to answer questions by asking, "I'm sorry you feel that way, is there anything I can do for you?". When we engage with ourselves in a sincere and compassionate way, we can often gain clarity or awareness on what is actually bothering us on the inside and potentially what shadow is being concealed by our subconscious mind.
Some inner dialogue tips:
You can pretend like you're best friend is confiding in you - how would you treat them?
You can pretend like you're speaking to yourself as a small child - caring and trying to understand what it is they feel.
Our thoughts create our beliefs, so repetition in the mind helps to re-write self-abusive thoughts and self-limiting beliefs. You're already repeating things in your mind, probably without even being aware of it - why not start taking action into introducing thoughts that support your self-care.
Here are a couple mantra's that can help re-write any self-limiting or self-abusive thoughts or beliefs;
"Thank you universe for allowing me to see this through the lense of love, I release any thoughts that no longer serve me"
"Everything I need right now is within"
"I deeply trust and fully accept myself for who I am right now"
Gather your own tools to create a toolbox of self care. Keep a list of things that you like, which you can go to if you're not sure what you need or feel like doing.
And remember, prevention is key; build a routine. If you prioritize your self-care you will begin to notice less low-vibe states in your days. Don't always wait until you're desperate for some time alone before making time for yourself.
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